My three daughters inspire important aspects of my writing and my teaching. I wrote "A Little Girl's First Haircut" after my youngest turned three. The dramatic upsherin hair-cutting ritual is traditionally reserved for boys. Here I explore what happens when it is performed on a girl. Read here this meditation on mothering and gendering (published in Lilith Magazine, April 2014).
My difficulty cutting it manifested the most fundamental dilemma that parents face:
the desire to watch our children grow into functioning, confident, capable individuals…and our longing for them to stay close, connected.